Turning 50 has been a blast!
Musings, writings and opinions of one 50 year old woman, who loved to write and one time and was told she was quite good at it and trying to start it up again...
Rambling thoughts to get me going
Well, it's been so many years since I've even tried to write that this may not be my best work.
I turned 50 this year and in so many ways it has been the best year of my life. I have a 21 year old that I love, but dont' like much at times, who has a 19 year old girlfriend and a 7 month old daughter, whom I just adore.
A light bulb went off for me one day driving home from work though, when I heard someone on the radio say, about adult children, "They need to be uncomfortable sometimes to make changes in their lives". Not that I have ever really made it comfortable for him, since he and my dear husband butt heads quite a bit. He is my children's stepfather and one who has instilled in them, or at least tried to, respect for me comes first before anything else and he will not tolerate ANY disrespect towards me. Anyway, we have never really given the boys much. By that, I mean they have to earn things. Not that I don't take care of my kids, but until a few years ago, I really didn't have much to give them and the oldest makes sure to rub that in a lot. Now that we've made it clear he is an adult and needs to support his family and be on his own, he is not happy with us. He's doing it, though. Working two jobs and trying to save, I guess, for a place to live with his girlfriend and daughter.
When he was 18 he was a very defiant, angry and ugly young man and we told him that if he could not respect us or our home he had to leave. Well, he spent a year or more on the streets and a few months in jail for something he was eventually cleared of. After that we let him come home since he had suddenly gained a lot of respect for us and maturity. Alas, that really didn't last but about a six month or so. Long story short, he moved out with girlfriend to her aunt's house, got kicked out of there, moved to CA to my sister's house, got kicked out of there and is now back and living with friends while his girlfriend and my granddaughter live with her alcoholic mother and druggie boyfriend. Oh well, not what I would have chosen, but it is THEIR lives, not mine.
I do have a wonderful 16 year old son who has ADD and is the complete opposite of his brother. He loves everyone, adores me and is just a nice person to everyone. A true joy to be around (when he's not in typical teen mode, which doesn't last long at all). If it wasn't for him, I would think that I am a horrible, horrilbe parent, but since I raised both of them with the same values and morals, I guess having one of two turn out to be a nice person is good odds.
Well, I just wanted to start my first blog. I have a lot of ideas in my head and wanted a forum where I could just write them all down.
I turned 50 this year and in so many ways it has been the best year of my life. I have a 21 year old that I love, but dont' like much at times, who has a 19 year old girlfriend and a 7 month old daughter, whom I just adore.
A light bulb went off for me one day driving home from work though, when I heard someone on the radio say, about adult children, "They need to be uncomfortable sometimes to make changes in their lives". Not that I have ever really made it comfortable for him, since he and my dear husband butt heads quite a bit. He is my children's stepfather and one who has instilled in them, or at least tried to, respect for me comes first before anything else and he will not tolerate ANY disrespect towards me. Anyway, we have never really given the boys much. By that, I mean they have to earn things. Not that I don't take care of my kids, but until a few years ago, I really didn't have much to give them and the oldest makes sure to rub that in a lot. Now that we've made it clear he is an adult and needs to support his family and be on his own, he is not happy with us. He's doing it, though. Working two jobs and trying to save, I guess, for a place to live with his girlfriend and daughter.
When he was 18 he was a very defiant, angry and ugly young man and we told him that if he could not respect us or our home he had to leave. Well, he spent a year or more on the streets and a few months in jail for something he was eventually cleared of. After that we let him come home since he had suddenly gained a lot of respect for us and maturity. Alas, that really didn't last but about a six month or so. Long story short, he moved out with girlfriend to her aunt's house, got kicked out of there, moved to CA to my sister's house, got kicked out of there and is now back and living with friends while his girlfriend and my granddaughter live with her alcoholic mother and druggie boyfriend. Oh well, not what I would have chosen, but it is THEIR lives, not mine.
I do have a wonderful 16 year old son who has ADD and is the complete opposite of his brother. He loves everyone, adores me and is just a nice person to everyone. A true joy to be around (when he's not in typical teen mode, which doesn't last long at all). If it wasn't for him, I would think that I am a horrible, horrilbe parent, but since I raised both of them with the same values and morals, I guess having one of two turn out to be a nice person is good odds.
Well, I just wanted to start my first blog. I have a lot of ideas in my head and wanted a forum where I could just write them all down.
